I’ve Been Watching You Dad….Ain’t that Cool?

I'm your buckaroo, I wanna be like you

I’ve been watching you, DAD….and…..let me forewarn you….I will do what you do.

 “I’ve been watching you, dad, ain’t that cool?
I’m your buckaroo, I wanna be like you
And eat all my food, and grow as tall as you are
We got cowboy boots and camo pants
Yeah, we’re just alike, hey, ain’t we dad?
I wanna do everything you do
So I’ve been watching you.”

Rodney Atkins – “I’ve been Watching You.”

This past week my wife, Michelle, had her best friend, Lori, in town for a week.  We were invited to a cookout with Lori and a number of other families.  We spent the better part of the afternoon hanging out and left late to go home.

Later I hear my beautiful bride yell “Grant!!!!”  (it was one of those tones that where every kid knows that they’re totally screwed.  I cringed because my little G was in deep water and I’m thinking….Oh no, now what?)

Grant: Coming!!!

Michelle:  Grant, I just got off the phone with Lori.

Grant:  Uh…huh?

Michelle:  Lori told me that when you were there you went up to her and (she pauses for effect and both Grant and I are internally freaking out) you asked her twice what you could do to help her.  You asked her how you could help.  Then Michelle grabs him and says “I’m so proud of you.”

Grant has one of those million dollar smiles that only an 11 year old boy in a crew cut can show.  He beams with each side of his mouth almost hitting each ear.

I grab the back of his head and pull him to my chest and say “dude….I’m so proud of you.  Do you know why you’re so good at that?”

Grant: No?

Me:  Because my dad was AWESOME at helping mom.  And he showed me how to love and help out.  I do the same to mom.  You see that and because of that you’re going to be a great husband and dad one day.”

He keeps smiling, but little tears develop inside with this smile.

We got back home, and I went to the barn
I bowed my head, and I prayed real hard
Said, “Lord, please help me help my stupid self.”
Then this side of bedtime later that night
Turning on my son’s Scooby Doo night light
He crawled out of bed, and he got down on his knees
He closed his little eyes, folded his little hands
And spoke to God like he was talking to a friend
And I said, “Son, now where’d you learn to pray like that?”

He said, “I’ve been watching you, dad, ain’t that cool?
I’m your buckaroo, I wanna be like you
And eat all my food, and grow as tall as you are
We like fixing things and holding mama’s hand
Yeah, we’re just alike, hey, ain’t we, dad?
I wanna do everything you do
So I’ve been watching you.”

With tears in my eyes, I wrapped him in a hug
Said, “My little bear is growing up.”
He said, “But when I’m big, I’ll still know what to do.”

Good or bad….they do what you do.  I have counseled and represented many adult kids who ended up being like their parents.  You may be a product of your parents, but I assure you that your kids will do what you do.  Bad parents?  You can change that and be involved with your kids.  Great parents?  Don’t get lax.  They will do what you do.  Be mindful and know that these kids are always watching you.  They will do what you do….always over anything you ever say.