I’m pretty sure that my name is really George Bailey

It is a Wonderful Life

We’ve all probably seen the 1946 Christmas classic, “It’s a Wonderful Life,” a million times.  I have to be honest in that I never saw the movie until a girlfriend during my second senior year in college demanded that I watch this black and white film.

By the time you’re done with the movie, you realize that you do have it pretty well.  You also realize that the world wouldn’t be the same without you in it.  But a day or two later you get mired down in life and all that inspiration falls to the wayside until next Christmas.

Where you are is the place you are, not your destiny.

Where you are is the place you are, not your destiny.

Just this past weekend, I was scrolling through the radio stations and I heard a preacher state that God has created you to do GREAT things in life.  “You’re to live an extraordinary life,” he continued.  I didn’t hear much after that, but I can tell you that I heard the message that seemed as if it were spoken only to me.

I think that message was directed to me in that I have had dreams and visions of doing something extraordinary.  I’ve had it since I was a kid.  But what really hit me is that all these years later, it really hasn’t left me.  You see, I’ve been struggling with this for most of 2016.  What is that one thing that I can do in order to raise people up.  The ideas have morphed into a plan and specific direction.  So when I heard Mr. Radio Preacher telling me that I’m supposed to do something extraordinary, the stirring continued.

Often times I wallow in what I haven’t accomplished, and, as a result, let go of even bigger dreams.  Ouch.  Did you hear that?  My modest accomplishments don’t seem big enough so I surrender the bigger dreams instead of embracing them.

It’s not like my life isn’t extraordinary.  It is.  I have an awesome wife (Michelle) and 5 kids who keep me sharp and on my toes.  I’ve written a critically acclaimed book (although the sales aren’t NY Times levels), I’ve had sooooo many call, text and e-mail me as to the impact that I’ve had on their life.

But I know that if that was it, I may as well pick out my plot and buy a casket.  We were never called to rest on our laurels.  A bigger mountain awaits us.  So, finally, I’m incorporating and putting my dreams to paper.  I have a plan.  I’ll use my talents and learn along the way.

What is it you’re called to do?  I know it’s something that I wasn’t called to do.  The drudgery of today evaporates when you have your purpose.  It rarely drops on your lap.  You need to seek it out, and as you do it becomes more and more clear.

Proverbs 29:18 speaks truths….Where there is no vision, people perish.

Find your passion, embrace it and use your talents to achieve your dreams.

Just Gonna Stand There and Watch Me Burn

But That's Alright Because I Love the Way You Lie

Your journey starts today

Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
But that’s alright, because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
But that’s alright, because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie.  Eminem

I have so many things that I want to accomplish in life.  I think that’s when I’m in life’s sweet spot.  I’m at my best with a goal and with a vision.  As I write this post I have my personal Life Plan right next to me ready for its umpteenth edit since I drafted my first version in 2003.  It needs to be relevant.  What worked for me when my oldest kid was 5 won’t work when he’s now 17 and almost ready for college.

I love the way you lie…….

It starts with brutal transparency with yourself to yourself.  My great friend, Steve Scanlon, who runs ReWire, Inc (see www.rewireinc.com) says that the longest journey any person can take is the 12 inches from your head to your heart.  Not only is the journey long, its where the lies show the most.  Or do they.  The lies are their and it’s those very lies, that unless exposed will keep you from the calling and passion that’s been placed in your heart.

Now I know we said things, did things
That we didn’t mean and we fall back into the same patterns
Same routine….

It’s so much easier to sacrifice a dream, a passion, a calling than it is to deal with the lies that we tell each other and the lies we tell ourselves.  The funny thing is when we’re lying others know that we’re not the real deal.  They know something is missing, but yet we lie.  We protect the façade.  The greatest lie is the lie we tell ourselves.  The second greatest lies are the continual ones we tell others especially those closest to us.  But it’s so much easier to “fall back into the same patterns, same routine than it is to actually be fulfilled.  Easy is the enemy of great.  Not everything needs to be hard, but accomplishing your dreams, your vision and being fulfilled, is so much more difficult than easy and falling into the same patterns and same routines.

I apologize even though I know it’s lies
I’m tired of the games…..

But the lies continue…..I’m at a point in my life where I am tired of the games that I play solo.  It seems that I don’t play games with others anymore, but I have a PhD in gaming myself.  I’ve lived too long.  I’ve enjoyed so many things along the way, but being occupied is different than being fulfilled.  The games with others start when we first stop playing games with ourselves.  Those 12 inches.  What a journey.  Some people will spend a lifetime never travelling those 12 inches.  If you’re like me, I get half way there but bail out often.  I don’t want to tell myself that I’m a fraud so it’s easier to bail and fall back into the same patterns, same routines.

I think the funniest thing is that when we lie to ourselves we actually hurt those who we’re closest too.  They’re close to us because they see those glimpses of our DNA that we decide to share with the world from time to time.  They’re in you’re life because they’re attracted to you, but you can’t impact their life because you haven’t dealt with the lies in your own life.  Those 12 inches become your Everest.  And when we fail to take on our mountain……

Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
But that’s alright, because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
But that’s alright, because I love the way you lie

MY JOURNEY restarts today.  Want to come with?